Every problem you have can always be traced to a relationship in your life. Every benefit you have too can also be traced to a particular relationship in your life! – Yomi Olufiade
Category Archives: Marriage
I HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY!
Blessed is the man who having nothing to say abstains from giving us wordy evidence of the fact.
This thought came to my mind earlier this afternoon while on the way to picking my son from school. If you’ve been following my blog here you’ll notice I haven’t made any post in about a week now. It’s not for want of something to say but of saying something that will be a blessing to my readers. I’ve always believed that you should talk only when you have something to say, not just because you have to say something!
I think in these days and with various social media platforms – facebook, twitter, myspace etc – we have to re-learn how not to talk unless there is something important or beneficial to say. We have to learn afresh to resist the urge to talk for talking sake. We should speak to bless lives. The Scriptures put it this way: “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt…. (something) good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” [Colossians 4:6a; Ephesians 4:29b]
If you’re feeling me on this, you might also enjoy this post I wrote earlier in the year, TURN OFF THE TAP! YOU WILL SUCCEED!
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I WAS WRONG!
The family is on my mind again. Since I read Jim Bakker’s book by the title above several years back, my priorities took shape. I don’t know about you but I do not want to do ministry at the expense of my family. My goal is still to be the best husband my wife could have ever had and to be the world’s best dad to my kids. I want to represent God well to my children. I don’t want them turning their backs on God and ministry because their dad committed adultery – loving God’s wife (the church) at the expense of loving his own wife and family!
Let’s prioritize family. Do not neglect your relationship with God and with your family. Love your spouse and children if you have them. Spend quality time with them. It pays you both in the short and long run.
Read here the submission of Jim Bakker. It’s been said that to know the road, you should ask someone coming back. Selah!
“In the midst of the swirl of activity, I lost touch with my family, and especially with Jamie. I was not there when he needed me. I confused the work of God for God Himself.
I was wrong.
I am now convinced that God must come first in our lives, then our family, and then the work that we are doing for God. If our family crumbles while we are trying to serve God, we have missed our primary ministry.” (Jim Bakker, I Was Wrong)
Think about this and make amends where you need to. I pray you will not make the same mistake. YOU WILL SUCCEED!
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20 DEFINITIONS YOU HAVE TO CHECK OUT (part 3)
Oh! Oh! Oh! Are you feeling this? Words are powerful and the meaning you attach to them defines you. I mean, you define words and in turn, they come to define you! Let these definitions help you, motivate you, encourage you or anger you, if need be. But please do not be indifferent.
Just check out these last set of definitions: having an education is not about going to school; worldliness is not rocket science, John Wesley cuts it to the bare bones for us. Enjoy and be blessed by these. You will succeed!
14. EDUCATION is that which we remember when we have forgotten all we learnt! – Unknown
15. COOPERATION is spelled with two letters: WE. – G. M. Verity
16. WORLDLINESS is that which cools my affection towards God. – John Wesley
17. COURAGE is fear that has said its prayers! – Karle Wilson Baker
18. THE WILL OF GOD is saying and doing the right thing in the right place with the right people at the right time and in the right sequence under the right leadership using the right method with the right attitude of heart. – Loren Cunningham
19. A GOOD MARRIAGE is a union of two forgivers. – Ruth Bell Graham
20. Okay now, add yours. I’m waiting.
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THE BATTLE OF POSTERITY
The pursuit of destiny is real warfare. And a council of hell is sitting right now to make sure you lose the battle. But you will win!
Don’t trade away your birthright. Don’t cheapen your destiny. “Sell me this day your birthright” (Genesis 25:31) is the demand of the battle of posterity. It is a conflict of choices. A test of the strength of your will:
Today versus Tomorrow
Now versus Later
The Present versus the Future
The Urgent versus the Important
The Immediate versus the Ultimate
The Temporal versus the Lasting.
“Sell me this day your birthright!”
Your destiny might not have matured but I challenge you, don’t sell it! Do not trade away your future on the altar of present enjoyment.
Esau had to choose between his hunger and his heritage.
Samson – between Delilah and delivering the Hebrews.
Moses – between Egypt’s treasures and Christ’s reproach.
Joseph – between Potiphar’s wife and a prominent place in Egypt.
Their eventual decisions tilted the battle in their favor or disfavor.
The battle of posterity is a war between TODAY and TOMORROW; between the PRESENT and the FUTURE. When losers fight it, they sacrifice the NOW on the altar of the LATER. They choose the TEMPORAL instead of the LASTING. They respond to the URGENT in the face of the IMPORTANT. They mistake enjoying the IMMEDIATE for the apprehension of the ULTIMATE.
Esau abandoned his birthright for a mess of pottage. Samson wasted his destiny on the laps of harlotry! You will not lose out!
The battle is in your choices. Anything that sacrifices your future on the platform of the now is against your ultimate good. Fight it!
Today is the most important day of your life. Your choice today decides your destiny tomorrow. Today is the cash deposit which you withdraw in tomorrow’s bank account.
There is a future for you. Don’t use today to deny yourself of tomorrow. Esau lost out in the battle of posterity. Will you too?
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12 DAILY REMINDERS FOR 2012
Today, and every day, please be reminded of:
1. The Value of TIME
2. The Success of PERSEVERANCE
3. The Pleasure of WORKING
4. The Dignity of SIMPLICITY
5. The Worth of CHARACTER
6. The Power of KINDNESS
7. The Influence of EXAMPLE
8. The Obligation of DUTY
9. The Wisdom of ECONOMY
10. The Virtue of PATIENCE
11. The Improvement of TALENT
12. The Joy of ORIGINATING
YOU WILL SUCCEED!
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THERE IS HOPE FOR YOU!
“But for him who is joined to all the living there is hope, for a living dog is better than a dead lion.” (Ecclesiastes 9:4)
From the broken pieces of our lives God can reconstruct a glorious destiny. Whatever it is you are going through today, THERE IS HOPE FOR YOU!
There is no accident in destiny. Everything that happens, happen on purpose. Actually, every accident is an incident when you are in pursuit of destiny. It is true, because God makes everything to fit into a plan for good. He is a master designer, weaving the broken threads of our lives into a beautiful piece of fabric.
Take heart, weary traveler on the journey to fulfillment. Whatever the enemy intends for evil, God will turn into good. You are only down, you are not out. You can, and will pick up again! In every deep pit, rejoice! There might be no way forward or backwards. But look up, there is a way upwards. Hallelujah!
You can turn your pains into gains. For in every disappointment, there is a divine appointment. In every disability, there will come forth a divine ability. There is a sense coming out of that your nonsense. In your disadvantage, there is an advantage!
Learn to look beyond your minuses. Every hurt can be healed and used to heal others. It’s a new day – a fresh opportunity for a brand new beginning altogether! In that your situation, God will make a way for you.
It is out of those broken pieces of your past that God will construct a beautiful future for you – a future laden with hope (Jeremiah 29:11, NKJV). He shall be glorified in your life, even right now. There is hope for you!
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WORDS TO LIVE BY
A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favor rather than silver and gold. (Proverbs 22:1 KJV)
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Want To Change The World? Change Yourself!
THE MAN WHO WANTED TO CHANGE THE WORLD!
I have not been there but it is reported that in the crypts of Westminster Abbey, in England the following words were written on the tomb of an Anglican bishop who lived in the 11th century:
“When I was young and free my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it, too, seemed immovable. As I grew in my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realized: If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may even have changed my world.”
If you change your world, the world will change for you. Don’t waste your life trying to change the world, change yourself! (Excerpts from the book, YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR WORLD! By Yomi Olufiade)
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DON’T YOU QUIT!
When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When cares are pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit!
Life is strange with its twists and turns,
As all of us sometime must learn
And many a failure turns about,
When we might have won had we stuck it out,
Don’t give up, though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things get worse that you must not quit! – Author unknown
Dear friend, draw inspiration, as I’m doing too, from this piece today. I believe in your destiny. YOU WILL SUCCEED!
