Who is your friend? What and Who, is a friend? What is friendship? How do you define a friend? Have you been asked that before? It’s a question I have been trying to proffer an answer to, from God’s Word. Let’s explore in these series of posts, the essence of friendships. And please do let me know what you think. Blessings!

Friends are not just acquaintances. And real friends are more than just school or work mates. No! AGREEMENT is the keyword in friendship. Two people cannot walk together except they are agreed. The axe is laid at the root of every relationship. If it does not produce, get rid of it! Friendship does not have to be by force.

Wrong friends (not necessarily bad ones) will corrupt your destiny. “Do not be deceived: evil company corrupts good habits.” (1 Corinthians 15:33) Amnon was King David’s firstborn son. By descent, he was heir to the throne of Israel. But his destiny crashed through a wrong advice from one of his so-called ‘friends’ – Jonadab the son of Shimeah. The ‘prodigal son’ too had a glorious destiny but not with the wrong company he kept. Beware of the friends you keep for they determine your destiny. He who walks with the wise will be wise!

So how do you define a friend?

“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” (Proverbs 27:17 NKJV)

Henry Ford said, “Who is your best friend? I will tell you who your best friend is. Your best friend is the one who brings out the best that is within you.” And I think that is so true.

Every true friend brings an investment of value into your life. They do not lean on you alone; they bring something to the table in the relationship. Someone who does not sharpen your focus on your assignment is not a good friend. Anybody who does not improve your life is neither. Some relationships do not add but subtract from you, which is no friendship but parasitism.

No relationship leaves you neutral; if it’s not adding to you, it is subtracting from you whether you’re aware of it or not. Watch out! Some folks are ‘subtracters’, not ‘adders’. They are ‘dividers’, not ‘multipliers’. They are ‘minuses’, not ‘plusses’. When you discover such people in your life, it’s time to go shopping for some new friends!



About Yomi Olufiade

My passion, dear friend, is to help you find, follow and fulfill God’s purpose for your life. Not only that, I also want to help you achieve tremendous success with your God-ideas and assignment through this medium via the life-changing truths of the Word of God. I’m sure you won’t remain the same again after interacting with me.

Posted on April 2, 2012, in Attitude, Bible, Choice, Church, Destiny, Dreams, Excellence, Faith, Friendship, Inspiration, Leadership, Mentoring, Ministry, Partnership, Purpose, Quotes, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Success, Vision and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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