Monthly Archives: February 2013

Can You Build Friendships?


This was the question that filled my thoughts as I dropped off my kids at school earlier this morning.

There is something about friendship: True friendship is like a brotherhood. Brotherhood implies nakedness. Nakedness connotes vulnerability. If you’re not ready to be vulnerable, you can’t build real friendships. True friendships goes beyond the artificial. The facade comes off. That’s why a proud man, a man or woman who cannot humble himself or herself cannot and will never, in my opinion have true friends. He that must have a friend must show himself friendly. Don’t you think so too?

7 GREAT GIFTS TO GIVE TO YOUR FRIENDS-3


Today, I want to continue this series: 7 GREAT GIFTS TO GIVE TO YOUR FRIENDS. I have discussed the gift of time i.e. investing time in your relationships. Now let’s move on.

GIVE THE GIFT OF LOVE:
Give your friend moral support.

Believe in your friend.

Stand by your friend!

Come hell or high water, stand by them. “Friendship is not by force, it’s by choice.” Yeah, I know that, but perish that thought right now! Whatever happened to good old loyalty? It was not convenient for Jesus Christ, yet He stayed by mankind through the cross. Come what may, no matter what, when others have left, only your true friends stand by you.

“A true friend is someone who is there for you when he’d rather be anywhere else.” (Len Wein) He has seen your faults and weak spots but won’t let you stay like that – that is a friend. A friend sees through you and still enjoys the view. Today, give your friends the gift of love. And you will see your friendship blossom, and you’ll be blessed for it. Trust me.

YOU WILL SUCCEED!

7 GREAT GIFTS TO GIVE TO YOUR FRIENDS – 2


Good morning! Hope you’re having a blissful weekend. So, let’s get moving with this. We’ve established that LOVE GIVES. But what kinds of gifts am I suggesting?

Number One: GIVE THE GIFT OF TIME

Invest time in your friendships.

Spend time with your friend. Schedule it into your agenda. We only find time for what we count important. Then use that time in mutually beneficial activities – reading, praying, playing (yes! playing); anything edifying.

Or just sit in each other’s presence. Talk! But much more, listen. Discuss together. Allow time for deep intellectual and emotional intercourse. Whatever we do not cultivate dies! Or, not so? Friendship only grows when time has been invested in it. Spouses need to be aware of this. Give time, and you reap a rewarding relationship.

Let me ask you today: how much time are you willing to invest in your significant relationships? And how?

You will succeed!

P.S. You may also like to read some other stuffs I’ve posted on friendships here:

How Do You Define A Friend? 1
How Do You Define A Friend? 2

7 GREAT GIFTS TO GIVE TO YOUR FRIENDS-1


Olufunmilola! Friendship is a subject I love thinking and talking about.

Love gives. “Every man is a friend to a man that gives gifts.” (Proverbs 19:6) There is nothing that wins you friendship with someone (whether high or low) like giving. “A gift opens the way for the giver and ushers him into the presence of the great.” (Proverbs 18:16)

If you love a person, you’ll give to her. You may give without loving but you can’t love without giving. The first time God loved, He gave. “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son…” (John 3:16) Give yourself into your relationships.

And that’s why I want to dedicate this post to my closest friend, my dear wife whose birthday is today. She is the true epitome of love that gives. So, while I dash out to try and give back a little in return, please take time and think on these few words I have shared here today. You will succeed!

Happy Birthday to you, OLUFUNMILOLA! I love you, baby!

THOUGHTS TO CHEW ON


OUR BIGGEST BARRIER TO SUCCESS IS NOT LACK OF RESOURCES BUT LACK OF BELIEF. – UNKNOWN